how to fall in love... with Mr. WRONG...

have you ever had the deepest feelings towards a guy, but it seems that the whole universe is united in the plot to completely separate you from him? well... join the club! every once in a while, you meet this one guy that you're just so into... he's charming, has a great sense of humor, sweet, and least to say of all, totally cute! but then, there's one minor detail that you're missing, or even, ignoring... he's unavailable! he could be married, seeing someone, has a girlfriend already, or even worse... gay! now, the hunt for elusive Mr. RIGHT seems to be leading you to an unexpected dead end, hence, you end up with Mr. WRONG. it's not uncommon for women, and even for gay men to be in such a predicament... after all, life is the implicit, understated quest for a few good men. the trouble is... why do we always end up with not-so-good men? he could be picture perfect, but has trouble committing. he could be charming, at the same time, can be a total jerk. then there's the, let's admit it, reject package... a perfectly good man on the inside, but a let down on the outside... physically unattractive. now, the latter is negotiable. but with the two mentioned earlier, how could you have not seen it coming? but wait, you still have incentives that come with that. say, you hit it off, tripped the moonlight fandango... the works... and out of nowhere... surprise! i'm married... with three kids i might add... where did you go wrong, woman? for gay men, it's easier to handle this... the downside? getting your heart broken easier as well... we have to admit it... sooner or later he'll have to leave you and give his undivided attention to his family... it's usually the, "later" that hurts most... that after the roller coaster of days and nights that you and he have been together, after getting so close, and after you've finally learned to love him... then you have to learn to let him go... it's unfair, i know... but that is reality, when you try to live out fiction... so, how do you prevent your heart from being shattered in a million and one pieces? here are some tell-tale signs that your hubby is not-so-rightie... you are so attracted to him... he has a girlfriend, or a boyfriend, and you could care less... you pour out your feelings for him, and he could care less... he seems to be avoiding you, or anyone that he knows knows you... also avoids anyone who asks him if he knows you... he's someone you seldom see, or if you see him almost all the time, he's not that hospitable... he tells you about his significant other, or he doesn't tell you, because he could care less about you... he doesn't return any of your calls or text messages... he doesn't give his number... he doesn't add you to his friendster list... he's straight, or gay (for either case)... you don't have anything in common, or you do but it's just because you're faking it... you know that he's bad for you, or that you're bad for him... you cry because of him but for no apparent reason... you do not understand him, and literally as well... he's about 5 years younger, or older... he doesn't want to meet your friends, or he doesn't want you to meet his... you have a hard time getting along with his friends, or you don't, but it's just because you're such a human doormat... his friends don't like you, or yours don't like him... you constantly ask his friends things about him because he doesn't tell you a thing... he told you from the start that he just wants to be friends... worse, he doesn't even want to be your friend... there are a lot more signs to help you decode the Mr. WRONG identity... but these are the ones that i am most familiar with... and in case you're wondering, how can you really tell? well, it's about time to open your pretty little eyes and smell the coffee sistah! the first step is to deny yourself of denial... if this has happened to you, not one too many times... then maybe you just have to say to and for yourself, "i'm a magnet for unavailable men"... but fear not dear lover... rest assured that there is someone for everyone... maybe you just haven't found him yet... maybe he got lost, and is just too stupid to ask for directions... whatever the case... the real challenge is to turn Mr. WRONG to Mr. RIGHT...